Let it Flow

Sometimes the desire to create is strong….and sometimes it’s not. I have learned through the years that you can push yourself only so hard. Writing, or any other creative outlet, needs inspiration and time. We have to recharge and re-energize, fueling our imaginations with much-needed rest and reprieve. A break is called for in all modes of life. We all have to remember that.

It is hard to give yourself time and space. We are taught as a society to burn the candle at both ends and go, go, go. But we are not made for a rushed existence. Caring for ourselves is an important part of the process.

We have ebbs and flows, like all elements of the planet. For instance, the ocean has times of peace and others of tumult. The waves have less power some days, but tremendous force other days. We observe, but rarely do we ask why the ocean can’t churn out perfectly powerful waves every day of the year. We should give ourselves and others that gift of being who we are each day instead of constantly expecting more and more.

Decide to let yourself give what you have to offer today, but don’t give too much of yourself. If you ride the wave instead of fighting it, the flow will be natural and it will feel right. Slow down and give your mind time to recharge. More inspiration and creativity come from meditation and achieving a natural rhythm than from forcing yourself to complete task after tedious task.

When you achieve your own balance, you will be your best at all things. You will tap into the power inside and will have quality to give. The natural order of your life will unfold and you will achieve peace of mind and a true sense of self.

So, when you are able, give yourself the space and time to relax. Life occurs one day at a time; don’t rush on through, just let the flow carry you along. And see how, naturally, you have much more to give.


Equality For All

We are missing the big picture, my lovely humans. We are all equal and should be entitled to equal rights. If we feel wronged, the way to win others over is not through violence or hate, it’s through togetherness and collective strength. If we open our minds and hearts to each other, we can begin to understand different views.This would enable us to fight for all human rights, not just for one group at the expense of others.

Issues of gender and race are worth thought and are due equal energy, but the larger issue is equality for ALL PEOPLE, not just some. Every group, race, religion, and person deserves respect and equal rights. We should be practicing each day to be fair and unprejudiced. We should open our minds on a consistent basis to others’ points of view. Close-mindedness and a false sense that some are better than others has gotten us to this point.

By leaving ourselves open to the topic of discrimination and tolerance of it, we are constantly thinking about it, creating a trigger response to it. No one is safe to say anything anymore for fear of being taken the wrong way or of hurting someone’s feelings. Diversity comes with challenges, but it doesn’t have to create a state of dissidence.

We should be fighting for the rights of all people, but somehow we have misplaced the energy, creating more segregation by fighting for groups’ rights, not just human rights. We are all in this together, my friends. Whatever organization you belong to, it is secondary to the larger group of humanity. It’s time to become passionate about getting along and to start focusing positive energy on solving collective problems. It is up to all of us to progress forward together with respect for our sameness, as well as our differences.

Do You Live In The Moment?

My son turns fifteen today and I find myself reminiscing about the past. Time moves swiftly and if you don’t savor the moments, you may awaken one morning to find that it was all a blur. I have always been one to smell the roses, making time for the people in my life, but I find myself having to unplug in order to truly connect with people today. Social bonds are so important and relationships are a main reason why we are here. As the internet and social platforms take a greater hold on our society, are we becoming closer to one another or more disconnected? Are we more worried about taking the best pictures to post later or are we truly enjoying the moment at hand?

I, for one, am not willing to sell my real life moments for social media’s sake. They will remain my memories and I don’t feel the need to share them with the world. The relationships I forge are too important for me to let my attention be divided between a screen and the feeling. I want to breathe the air, savor the flavor, and feel my heart skip a beat. I like to share what I want when I want to, and I don’t like feeling pressure to do otherwise. But, I understand that I am more of a private person who is not looking for constant input from my cyber contacts. For some of you, like my son, it is a genuine way to establish connections and have meaningful relationships.

How do you feel about Facebook in your life? Does it make you feel closer to your friends and family or does it get in the way of living in the moment? Do you use it as a tool or do you feel compelled to stay connected for fear of missing out?

I leave it to you to decide how much of yourselves to give to the media. Sometimes we seek the comfort of many and social platforms can provide that. But think about the times when you look back on your life. Will you be looking at your memories through a type of lens or through your heart? Maybe you can do both, but I find that the best way for me to enjoy my life and then reminisce is to live each moment fully and without care of how it will look to my friends on my Facebook page. So, to my real life, and my son’s birthday, I return.


No More Hate

Hatred needs to end. I know it’s cliché, but can’t we just all get along? We are different people, yes, but we’re all human. We have different opinions, upbringings, amounts of money, just to name a few challenges; however, we can choose to see what we want to see in other people. We can take note of differences, celebrate them, and learn from each other. If done respectfully, bonds can be created that foster understanding. The choice to move forward from our past is up to us.

America is a melting pot of cultures, so shouldn’t we have learned tolerance by now? We should applaud differences and appreciate opposite viewpoints. Diversity helps us to understand humankind. If only surrounded by like-minded individuals, our lives would lack the heterogeneity that is the key to our existence. We learn and grow by knowing each other on a deep, personal level. The experience and compassion gained by knowing people of different backgrounds is invaluable.

Think about when you are trying to solve a problem. Oftentimes, an altered perspective is needed to figure out the answer. That same idea holds true in personal relationships. Friends give each other many ways to look at their lives and move in better directions. By embracing dissimilar opinions, races, creeds, and religions, we are able to experience the true nature of this collective strength. We all have something to give and teach one another, so open your door to a greater variety of influence.

Strive to understand your fellow man/woman because they are with whom we share our world. We don’t all get along right now, and perhaps we never will, but by changing the way we see one another, we can stop blaming each other for events in the past and move closer to the dream of peace. We can choose to live our lives with compassion, truth, and responsibility. Associations are strong, but negative emotions are even stronger, so shed negativity and strike back with kindness against the hatred of diversity. Learn to forgive, forget, and forge friendships anew, ensuring we can all move forward with love and understanding.

Life In Transition

We don’t always have to know what we’re aiming for or where we’re going in life. The unknown is a common thing to encounter on our way through life. But sometimes pressure from friends and family makes it seem like we always have to have a plan and be ready for the future. I’m here to tell you that it’s okay to take your own path, even if you don’t know the way, because in life you are ultimately going to decide your direction, whichever direction it may be.

We typically see transition at a few distinct times in our lives. Teenagers are notorious for having fleeting wild ideas or no plans whatsoever at times. That’s okay because they usually figure it out. Midlife crises are another time when indecision comes about and paths can take a decidedly different turn. Again, we are allowed to muddle through this time with the understanding that we will right our boat in due time.

But what happens when we feel that we are in the wrong shoes or that we want to make a change in our lives for no particular reason? The decision is often met with scorn or judgement, full of the what ifs of the unknown. What I say is that it should be a common theme in life to question your direction and to take turns when you feel you should. We are here for a relatively short period of time and should be allowed, without feeling guilty or judged, to do what we feel is right.

A change in your life’s path shouldn’t be seen as a slight to the people around you or as a lack of responsibility, but as a statement of the fleeting nature of our lives and the necessity to grasp each moment in its fullness. We should be allowed to enjoy, change, and be free to choose with no judgement. No, we will not shirk our responsibilities, but we will have more confidence to forge ahead into the unseen and the unknown. And with that effort, we will create a world full of greater promise and creativity. We will feel a better connection to ourselves and the world around us. Just think of all the good that could come from reaching out of predictable lives to try new things and change direction. We should all become invigorated to make changes in our lives. Then we would see how amazing our collective future could be!